In the past few months, I’ve found myself getting interested in the sitcom, “Everybody Loves Raymond.” Yes, I know this show was on years ago but I never watched it then. I tend to do this. I didn’t watch “Seinfeld” until it was off the air, and now I think it’s pure genius. Didn’t watch “Sex in the City” or “Six Feet Under” until they were airing their final seasons but I started at the beginning and fell madly in love with both…
Anyway, after watching “Everybody Loves Raymond”, besides forming a crush on Ray Romano (who, by the way, has a new show on TNT – “Men of a Certain Age” – and it’s fabulous,) I grew fond of his parents, Frank and Marie. They are these two bickering Italians, who are nosy, know-it-all, pushy, loving, funny and blunt. And when an episode came on where they were actually the healthy couple BECAUSE they were blunt and said what was on their mind and how they felt, it got me thinking… Sure, this couple is loud and obnoxious, but at least they tell it like it is. Maybe they don’t have much tact but they don’t hold things in, and if they try, it’s only a matter of time before it comes out.
And you know, there’s something to be said for bluntness.
While I think we should try to have tact and be understanding of others’ feelings, isn’t it better in the long run to just tell it like it is rather than keep it inside and compensate for it through vices, sarcasm, anger or pain? Why not say how you feel, when you feel it? As the show implies, maybe Frank and Marie aren’t as horrible as they appear…
As someone who more than not says exactly how she feels, I’ve figured out that many people are sensitive and one’s words and actions can be misconstrued. So while I do think that Frank and Marie Barone have a great point in being blunt and putting their feelings out in the open so that when they put their head on their pillow at night, they aren’t thinking about what they kept inside, it’s still important to remember to be considerate of others.
Maybe they don’t choose to do as you do, or even agree with you. That’s okay.
At least, you did as you believed. What more can you do?
There’s something to be said for bluntness.